A mom recently went out of her way to spend a special day with her 10 year old daughter. They first went shopping for some new athletic shoes and where having such a good time they went on to find a top and some other clothes. To top off this amazing afternoon mom decided they'd go for some ice cream. All was well and good... until... ungratefulness set in.
Her daughter started whining and complaining about things which turned into a major melt down. Ack! The mom thought. What happened to our fun afternoon? It's a disaster!
Well, having learned Love and Logic® techniques, she decided to set an enforceable limit. "I take kids shopping and have a nice afternoon with them when they are respectful and appreciate our time together." Then she proceeded to go back to the store and return all of the items. Yep. RETURNED them.
What happened to the daughter during this? Yep. Nuclear meltdown. However, mom stayed "brain dead" and didn't argue or take offense.
After the returns the whole family had dinner and mom packed her daughter off to bed early.The next morning her daughter woke up bright and cheery. Wow! Amazing!
Her daughter got to learn the natural consequence of her poor decision to misbehave and be ungrateful.
I have to admit it takes a lot of courage sometimes for a parent to put down their foot and refuse to accept "poor behavior". Hats off to this mom for doing just that!
I have a feeling her daughter will behave differently when mom takes her out the next time. Don't you?
Her daughter started whining and complaining about things which turned into a major melt down. Ack! The mom thought. What happened to our fun afternoon? It's a disaster!
Well, having learned Love and Logic® techniques, she decided to set an enforceable limit. "I take kids shopping and have a nice afternoon with them when they are respectful and appreciate our time together." Then she proceeded to go back to the store and return all of the items. Yep. RETURNED them.
What happened to the daughter during this? Yep. Nuclear meltdown. However, mom stayed "brain dead" and didn't argue or take offense.
After the returns the whole family had dinner and mom packed her daughter off to bed early.The next morning her daughter woke up bright and cheery. Wow! Amazing!
Her daughter got to learn the natural consequence of her poor decision to misbehave and be ungrateful.
I have to admit it takes a lot of courage sometimes for a parent to put down their foot and refuse to accept "poor behavior". Hats off to this mom for doing just that!
I have a feeling her daughter will behave differently when mom takes her out the next time. Don't you?