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I have been practicing the skills we learned on Sunday. Tonight I had a small victory - my son dumped out two games with lots of pieces on the floor before bedtime and I calmly was empathetic and explained he needed to clean up or no book at bedtime. While he tested me at the start and we did a time out - he came back and cleaned up both games without my help and was able to have a book at bedtime. It was the first time I held him accountable and it felt really good!
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As you advance in skills you'll move up to the Uh Oh Song and Bedroom Time as possible consequences. See my website for more information on those:
http://www.parentingwithlogic.com/uh-oh-song.html
For those of you with older kids it would be more appropriate to use "Energy Drain" although it's possible to use this technique for younger ones as well.